Modern Dating 101

The importance of time between relationships is crucial!! I can't stress this enough. While you may want to jump into the next relationship or next bed as means to help "get over" your ex, please don't. Relationships are hard and breakups can take a lot out of you. One of the worst pieces of advice I've ever received and I know many others have received as well is, "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new." Eeek. Why though? I mean, sure, flings and randoms can be fun at times, but you are an emotional mess and do you really want to end up sobbing on some strangers shoulder because he just so happened to grab your ass like your ex? Ya, didn't think so. Gross. If your previous relationship or relationships didn't work out due to common or previously before seen / expressed issues (trust issues, anger issues, commitment issues), chances are you have some work to do... ON YOU. Jumping into another relationship without t...

As we get older and progress through the various stages of life, the likelihood of dating a single-parent becomes increasingly more common. A lot of us over the years have been in long term serious relationships, some married some common-law, some relationships fleeting and brief. Some of us have started a family with who we thought was going to be our happily ever after, only to realise you've grown apart over the years and no longer have it in you to make things work. Some of us end up with unplanned little minions from relationships that weren't expected or were doomed from the get-go, so we end up taking the long, hard road of parenting on our own. Some of us choose different paths, some put career before kids, travel over family, and some just haven't grown up yet. Whatever path you choose is entirely up to you and nobody has a right to judge your choices, those are YOUR choices and yours alone. That being said, there are massive differences between these types...

My last relationship ended because I need more space than he understood the need for. I've always been incredibly independent and I've pretty much always been left to my own devices in previous relationships. I may not have had the most positive experiences in previous relationships, hence the need for independence, but I did not feel smothered or caged. My last relationship stressed me out because I needed my space and he didn't (red flag). He got offended when I told him I needed time alone (mostly to just go to yoga class a couple times a week-cheaper than therapy! but also to just fucking breathe my own air and not see his face for a bit). He did not see the importance of time away from each other and felt that it was a personal attack on him or that I didn't want to be around him (red flag). Quite frankly, when you spend 24/7 with another human being half the time you just wonder when the fuck they're going to go away and give you 5 minutes of peace so y...